Introducing The Hedonist Woman

Introducing The Hedonist Woman 

What differentiates the hedonist woman from all other women is one single striking characteristic: she is in possession of a bombastic dose of self-love, self-worship, even. Self-love is not to be confused with self-absorption. Self-absorption comes from a place of insecurity and feeling of intense lack whereas self-love comes from deep inside the soul, where love and abundance reign. A self-loving woman is profoundly connected with her feminine nature and understands that going against that nature by treating herself with any regard short of worship is ultimately sacrilegious.

What the hedonist woman believes in:

Taking Pleasure. Be it the small, the ordinary or extravagant pleasures life has to offer her, she enjoys them all, in good time. Because she is predominantly pleased with herself and the choices she makes, she has every reason to take pleasure in the everyday things. In fact, she sees them as a celebration of her existence. It doesn’t take a promotion or a birthday for her to celebrate herself, the simple act of waking up does the job. You will never hear her sighing: “I can’t believe this is my life…” in defeated fashion. Instead, she exclaims “I can’t believe this is my life!” in excited fashion. The words are the same; it is the intention that makes the difference. The hedonist woman lives with the believe that the world and the people in it want her to excel, shine and succeed. And so she does, accepting pleasure wherever she can as a token of her good fortune.

Freedom. Because she does not function from the principle of a lack of abundance, she can share her beauty and inspiring feelings and musings with others. She never comes out of an experience with other people feeling empty, drained or used. She allows herself to be inspired and extends inspiration wherever she goes. She doesn’t attach herself to others because she understands that freedom – real freedom – is the greatest luxury she can ever afford herself and the people she loves. Do not mistake this quality for cold heartedness, mindless promiscuity or romantic detachment, for it is its exact contrary.

Chivalry. Because its existence is proven to her every single day in her interactions with men. She does not know what all these women are talking about when they complain that chivalry is dead, it simply is not her reality.

What the hedonist woman does not believe in:

Rules. To her rules are obstacles to experiences and make her feel manipulated or manipulative. She does not support rules in any area of life, work or love. She doesn’t follow anything except her feminine core, a place that keeps her centered and strong inside. Because of this strong inner core, she can allow herself to be soft, feminine and warm on the outside. This keeps her open and receptive to love, and all the other good things life has to offer.

Neediness. The hedonist woman is never needy or clingy towards others, looking for attention. She is entirely self-sufficient when it comes to feeling good about herself. Of course, she accepts compliments. She believes whole-heartedly that people should be vocal about their admiration of each other and thus often compliments, charms and flirts with those that appeal to her, be it children, animals, other women or men.

Shame. She is never ashamed of her body – or her mind. She is a sensual creature before anything. Sensuality to her is not a frivolous pastime hobby or something she can turn on and off like a light switch; it is intrinsic to her nature. You’ll never hear her speak badly about her body or apologize for a feeling or thought that crosses her mind, she accepts herself wholly and feels that you should do so too.

In conclusion, the hedonist woman is never a feminist.

(images: Well Kept by Julian Ritter, The Sirens by Unknown)